Ajo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb dhe fisnike p\u00ebr holandez\u00ebt, mund t\u2019u duket e ngurt\u00eb dhe pakuptimte per shqiptaret…<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u00eb debatosh se kush do ta paguaj\u00eb fatur\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ritual i zakonsh\u00ebm n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, por n\u00eb Evrop\u00ebn veriore, nj\u00eb sjellje e till\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e panjohur, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e pazakont\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebsh q\u00eb Gjithashtu, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e pazakont\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb paguajn\u00eb pjes\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb nj\u00eb dreke romantike. Ajo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb dhe e zakonshme p\u00ebr holandez\u00ebt \u00ebsht\u00eb e ngurt\u00eb dhe e kursyer p\u00ebr kroat\u00ebt, por duke pasur parasysh \u00e7mimet marramend\u00ebse, ne po paguajm\u00eb m\u00eb modeste. Ekspert\u00ebt besojn\u00eb se rregullat e mir\u00ebsjelljes n\u00eb lidhje me pages\u00ebn, si dhe shum\u00eb specifika t\u00eb tjera n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri, jan\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb dend\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb lart\u00eb t\u00eb popullsis\u00eb<\/strong> s\u00eb holandez\u00ebve . Sipas nj\u00eb teorie, ata kompensojn\u00eb munges\u00ebn e hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs fizike me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie mjaft formale me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin – si t\u00eb thuash, ata krijojn\u00eb distanc\u00eb sociale. N\u00eb disa pjes\u00eb t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, ku njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb ngroht\u00eb dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb hapur, af\u00ebrsia e njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb me sa duket nuk i shqet\u00ebson aq sa holandez\u00ebt, por ky popull nga veriu m\u00eb i ftoht\u00eb ruan hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e tij personale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00ebrve\u00e7 pages\u00ebs s\u00eb faturave t\u00eb tyre n\u00eb restorante, holandez\u00ebt nuk do t\u00eb vizitojn\u00eb as dik\u00eb pa paralajm\u00ebrim, dhe rregulli \u00ebsht\u00eb i thjesht\u00eb: sa m\u00eb pak t\u00eb af\u00ebrt t\u00eb jen\u00eb me dik\u00eb, aq m\u00eb her\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb lajm\u00ebrohen. N\u00eb Holand\u00eb, edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e rritur i telefonojn\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e tyre (dhe anasjelltas) p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull t\u00eb vizitojn\u00eb – dhe ata kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb futen me forc\u00eb. Gjithashtu, vonesa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e zakonshme; n\u00ebse ftohen n\u00eb or\u00ebn tet\u00eb, holandez\u00ebt do t\u00eb bien zile n\u00eb der\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht at\u00ebher\u00eb. Sipas etik\u00ebs, grat\u00eb holandeze p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndesin nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn duke u puthur tre her\u00eb n\u00eb faqe, dhe burrat puthen me miqt\u00eb e ngusht\u00eb – gjat\u00eb takimeve t\u00eb tjera ata shtr\u00ebngojn\u00eb duart. Pjesa tjet\u00ebr e bot\u00ebs shpesh habitet nga ndershm\u00ebria dhe drejtp\u00ebrdrejtshm\u00ebria holandeze.<\/strong> Ndershm\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb aq thell\u00eb e rr\u00ebnjosur n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb holandeze saq\u00eb ekziston nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb: bespreekbaarheid, q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrkthehet si aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, dhe ideja pas saj \u00ebsht\u00eb se gjith\u00e7ka mund dhe duhet t\u00eb diskutohet hapur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ben Coates,<\/strong> autori i librit \u201cPse holandez\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm\u201d,<\/strong> u zhvendos n\u00eb Holand\u00eb nga Mbret\u00ebria e Bashkuar. Ai kujton p\u00ebrvoja t\u00eb ngjashme, si nj\u00eb kur u preu flok\u00ebt dhe nj\u00eb mik i tha menj\u00ebher\u00eb se modeli i tij i flok\u00ebve nuk i shkonte fare. \u201cBen ka arritur n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se holandez\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb rrem\u00eb. Edhe n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e biznesit, n\u00ebse thua di\u00e7ka budallall\u00ebk, ata nuk do t\u00eb t\u00eb kursejn\u00eb ose nuk do ta mbajn\u00eb p\u00ebr vete. Koncepti i privat\u00ebsis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht i ndrysh\u00ebm nga shum\u00eb vende t\u00eb tjera, dhe holandez\u00ebt nuk kan\u00eb problem t\u00eb diskutojn\u00eb tema intime n\u00eb publik. Njer\u00ebzit do t\u00eb diskutojn\u00eb problemet e tyre sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore, divorcin ose jet\u00ebn dashurore pa asnj\u00eb kompleks n\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant apo kafene t\u00eb mbushur me njer\u00ebz. Ata nuk shohin asnj\u00eb arsye p\u00ebr ta fshehur k\u00ebt\u00eb. Drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00ebsia dhe transparenca pranohen n\u00eb Holand\u00eb, dhe sa t\u00eb hapur jan\u00eb njer\u00ebzit \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu e dukshme n\u00eb faktin se ata nuk kan\u00eb perde n\u00eb dritare, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb kushdo mund t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb dhe apartamentet e tyre. Kombet e tjera shpesh ankohen se holandez\u00ebve u mungon takti. N\u00ebse kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb apo jo, nuk dihet – por \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb se n\u00eb Holand\u00eb, e v\u00ebrteta mbizot\u00ebron mbi ndjenjat.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ajo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb dhe fisnike p\u00ebr holandez\u00ebt, mund t\u2019u duket e ngurt\u00eb dhe pakuptimte per shqiptaret… T\u00eb debatosh se kush do ta paguaj\u00eb fatur\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ritual i zakonsh\u00ebm n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, por n\u00eb Evrop\u00ebn veriore, nj\u00eb sjellje e till\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e panjohur, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e pazakont\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":40483,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[38],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-40482","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-stil"],"yoast_head":"\n
t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb paguajn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vet\u00ebn.<\/strong> N\u00eb anglisht, ekziston nj\u00eb shprehje e quajtur
“going Dutch<\/em> “, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb. Fatura totale shpesh ndahet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb barabart\u00eb, ose t\u00eb gjith\u00eb llogarit dhe paguan sakt\u00ebsisht at\u00eb q\u00eb ka porositur, me ndihm\u00ebn e aplikacioneve t\u00eb njohura t\u00eb telefonave celular\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\nGjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00eb <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Pse jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n